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Standing My Ground

I’ve been bullied for several times before and I will never allow it to happen to me again.

I will never forget the day my pained and disappointed father sat down with me and gave me “The Talk”, and told me things that he felt I needed to hear and would eventually impact me. It happened after I went home frowning because of an incident where I got beaten up by a classmate.

I embraced his words from then on and everytime a bully would try to do something against me, I just stood up my ground, looked them in the eye, and made them feel that I will never back down. Sometimes, I would get away from the bullying and get home safe. Sometimes, I would go home with wounds and dirty destroyed clothes and those were the moments where my father would just tap and remind me of his talk.

He wouldn’t tolerate me from being violent, but he would tell me that he is proud whenever his son doesn’t hold back. And if there’s a value that he wanted to inculcate, it’s fighting for one’s right to speak up and do whatever it takes to defend his space from anybody who would try to ruin it.

It’s funny because I got my Master’s Degree in Counseling with a thesis about bullying. Or maybe, it was destiny. I just can’t let others use their strength and influence only to intimidate others.

I have been telling myself that when I have a chance to sit down and do “The Talk” with my future children, I will tell them the exact things that my father told me. But since I have yet to experience fatherhood, I choose to do this with my people — the ones that I have influence to, especially my students, and orhers who are within my bounds. I tell them the same exact words that Pop said.

“Stand your ground. Don’t let others hurt you. Defend your space. Fight for your right to live peacefully.”

I’ve been bullied for several times before and I will never allow it to happen to me, to my children, and to my people again.

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This Inspiring “This Is Us”

I don’t know if it’s strange, but when I began to whole-heartedly embrace my career, all I wanted to happen in life is to become a wise old man someday. 

This is why I easily loved Dr. K’s character in This Is Us. He says the right words every time they are needed.

Wanna cry? Wanna laugh? Watch this beautiful series.

Wanna find your life’s meaning through something? Binge-watch this one of the greatest things that ever happened in TV history. And you wouldn’t mind if this becomes a result of staying at home for the whole weekend like what we just experienced. 

“I like to think that one day you’ll be an old man like me talkin’ a young man’s ear off explainin’ to him how you took the sourest lemon that life has to offer and turned it into something resembling lemonade.”

-Dr. K

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It’s Hard

Saw an episode of this intriguing series because the Love was binge-watching it. I want to share my take on this show, but it will be in a separate post. 

Anyway, I feel for Mr. Porter, the school counselor, and his struggle. It’s hard to not know a serious problem that one of the students is having when every person counts on you and looks up to you since you are the helper and empowerer of the institution, but it’s as difficult as knowing everything and trying your best to act on it professionally and humanely, even if your job and license are both on the line.
Jay Asher, the writer of 13 Reasons Why, said it best. “You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything affects everything.”

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On Career Choices

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1. What would you do if you weren’t afraid of judgment?

2. What if you found the courage to do what you really wanted to do and doing it changed your whole life?

Making a living that reflects your values and satisfies your needs is an achievement. It’s just rare, though.

Career choice is not as much about who you used to be, as it is about who you CHOOSE to be.

Your call. Your decision.

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Be a Swan

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Simple Lesson:

Never make a decision when your emotions are high. Happy, sad, or disappointed, avoid it. Breathe, focus, and restore the calmness.

A sharp mind functions in a calm atmosphere like a beautiful swan swimming in a serene lake.

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Keep Going

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Don’t get stuck with the ghosts of yesterday and save yourself from pain and disappointment. Giving emphasis on what IS being done, thought, and felt at the moment rather than on what WAS would help.

Screenshot from a scene in the movie “The Lovely Bones”